You have a right to keep things private. It's your life. Your experiences.
When you take a fall believe me folks want to know everything. I think some folks want to know out of genuine concern but there are those few (they move around a lot so it feels like they multiply) that want all the details to the last morsel so they can a.) tell everyone about your situation b.) revel in the fact that it has not happened to them and c.) tell you exactly what you should be doing according to their depth of wisdom ... with most times being clueless to the larger issues that may have impacted you. Ring a bell of anyone in your life?
Just like selecting your cheering section..your support team..you need to know who to confine in and who to say what to. Remember anyone you share things with may think you want their opinion and advise. That is not always the case. Sometimes you just need someone to listen. I have found it helpful to say..."I don't expect you to fix this..I just need you to listen". Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't. Certainly if you are not getting the support you need when you talk to someone then you need to make a mental note not to do it again.
And if you have opened a door to someone...letting them in on what is going on...you also have a right to close that door if it's not useful to you. Will they like it? Probably not but this time we are talking about your needs as you work through something. You need to put other people's needs to the side for awhile.
Just as you need to clear the clutter around you physically, you need to clear the clutter that may be in your head.
Thinking clearly is important as you start to sort things out. Having a cast of thousands giving you input is not a helpful part of that process. You need to set your boundaries with people and work to keep those boundaries strong.
Tomorrow...my story.
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