I know there could be some disagreement about giving a name to your fear. Some may feel that makes it more of an acceptance on your part. I disagree.
I am not saying to invite what you are afraid of into your house and have a cup of tea! What I am saying is that if you make it less scary...and YOU giving it a name... can help make dealing with your fear a bit easier.
Here's an example. I got shingles a couple of years ago. It was very scary. It hurt like hell and I did not know what was wong and I had and still have no health insurance.
I ended up in the emergency room as the one spot in the middle of my forehead ( 'cause why would it be anywhere else!) became more painful. I thought I gotten bitten by a spider. ER doc said...no you have shingles and we need to be careful it does not get in your eyes. Okay then...
Armed with pain medicine and faith I went home. I only had one spot...a spot I named Bert. First name that came to me...and I went with it. Somehow Bert became less scary. I told Bert I would take care of him and he needed to not hurt so much. Sounds crazy...but it worked.
I have a scar from Bert and it now serves as my early warning signal. I get too stressed and Bert pops out for all to see. Well maybe I am the only one who sees him...but I am the only one who needs to. I take a deep breathe and try to back off the stress point I have reached.
Bert and I will be together for life. I for one would rather know the names of my life traveling partners than having a stranger lurking around in the shadows.
Not every idea works for everyone...but the more possible tools you have the better the chance you'll find the right one when you need one!
Much wisdom in "knowing your enemy." That allows you to be much further along the road to beating it.
Posted by: Kathy Widenhouse | February 06, 2013 at 09:49 AM
hi! By naming your fear you can own it, tame it and even laugh at it. Fun story! THANKS!~!!!
Posted by: gretchen | February 06, 2013 at 11:13 AM
I love the UP ALCO Steamer, The Big Boys were a great Steamer. The Pennsylvania Steamer looks like an old Baldwin, but my eyes don't see that well. 1948 to 1950 I use to throttle jerk the old Baldwin 2-6-2 and 4-8-4 for ATSF and? on to the Diesel until reemrtient. This is a great layout. Great video of it
Posted by: Andy | March 10, 2013 at 04:00 AM