Fall Down Seven Times Get Up Eight

Do you have super powers?

Oh yes you do!

You have the power to say yes or no. 

You have the power to say that's enough.

You have the power to ask for help.  

So quit complaining, dust off your cape and flex that power. 

 And  poof watch your world change.

Everyone is doing the best they can...including you.

That's where we have to start.  We are doing the best we can.  We can always do better.  But where we are, what we are doing...if we are giving it our all...our best shot...we need to say we are doing our best.   And we need need to cut ourselves some slack.

I have been sitting with this for the last day or two.  I have a "to do" pile...not a list...that can seem daunting on the best day.  This morning I realized everything I am doing in the very limited time I have available...and myself talk around the pile has changed.

If you truly can say to yourself that you are giving your best.  That's what you can do.  That's it.  Unless you are a superhero...you have some limits...and to acknowledge those limits...be them time or energy is not to admit failure...it's rather to acknowledge what is real for you.  And once you do that...the pressure can shift to doing what's in front of you rather than the sheer size of your pile.

You are not your past.

And for that matter...you are not your future either.  You are you.  Things happen to all of us but they are not who we are.

We are who we define ourselves to be.  So who are you?

It's your life. You decide.

I think input is great.  When you are going to make a big decision it's fine to ask for other people's input.  Gather some opinions.  Then you can consider them if you wish...sort through them.  But in the end..it is up to you.

Plain and simple.  Your life.  Your choices.  Your responsibility.  It is how it is suppose to be.

*I know this seems simple but you would be surprised how many people don't embrace this.  Sigh...

Moving in slow motion.

There is something to be said for speed.  It gets you where you want to go faster. If you are focused and directed and know exactly where you want to go...speed can be your friend.

On the other hand if you aren't as sure where you are going...slow motion can be good too.  It gives you time to figure out where you want to be without having to turn round so much because you got on the wrong road.

Today is a slow motion kind of day and Pumpkin, the wiener dog and I are enjoying the ride.

Today zig when you would usually zag.

Just for today...zig when you would usually zag.  Do the unexpected.  For just today take a different route. Just for today look at things differently.  Just for today :)

Today you surprise!

That's right.  You surprise...someone.  Be different.  Do something out of the ordinary. It doesn't have to be big...just do it.  Surprise or remember someone.

I just got a text from a young man who I am guardian of who wished me a good day. It was a surprise to get and made me smile.

Why don't you see how many people you can make smile today.  Could there possibly be a better way to spend your day?  I didn't think so :)

You fill in the blank today.

Today I am _______________________.  Fill in the blank...

Didn't know you could predict the future did you? :)

Find one thing..just one good thing in the person who drives you nuts!

It's a good exercise that can give you some peace.  Really it can work.

If there is someone that you live with, work with, come in contact with and they simply drive you nuts...try to find one good thing about them and let that be your focus.  Let the other stuff fall away.

The other stuff is NOT bothering them but it's driving you nuts.  So you need to change your focus if your contact with them needs to continue.

Here is an example...when I worked in TV there was a director who drove me nuts.  Every time I worked with him he simply drove me nuts.  He complain..nitpicked...made me do things over and over.

Then when day I decided there must be something good about him I could focus on.  I thought "he is breathing!"  Then my head said "he is taking up air someone else could use!!!"  Apparently NOT my answer. :) LOL

Then I did put some thought into it because I was tired of being irritated.  I decided that he really cared about his work. Really cared and was doing the best he could to make it good.  Honestly that day my attitude and behavior towards him changed. Funny thing...I calmed down and so did he.  It wasn't all delightful...but the fireworks stopped.

So who is driving you nuts...and what's one good thing about them?

Faith or Fear...you choose your roommate.

They are a choice. Do you want to live with faith or fear?  Kind of like roommates!

Both will bring things to your life.

If you choose to live with faith...there may still be ups and downs.  Life will not always go as you plan.  That is not the kind of guarantee that faith brings along.  Faith brings a solid base.  A touchstone that you can depend on. So even when things get crazy if you reach out for faith you can feel comfort and a sense of steadiness.

Fear on the other hand brings with it doubt, chaos and reluctance. Fear brings holding back, OMG panic and sometimes the inability to act.  Fear hides your solid base in the closet and likes to watch  you spin.

You always have to choose one or the other.  They cannot live together. I have been with both.  I just realized on my birthday that fear had moved in over the last year.  I thought fear had moved out.  It had not.  It is now.

I am redecorating and making faith feel very welcome.  My "house"... my rules.  Good lord I sound like my father!  But this time he is right. Fear got evicted and faith has moved right back in. 

Ahhhh a roommate that will help not hinder...my kind of choice :)