Fall Down Seven Times Get Up Eight

Finish your unfinished business.

If you treated yourself like someone who loved...you would say...finish your unfinished business.  That was Thomas Leonard's recommendation and I think it's a great one.

Finish your unfinished business.  It holds you back and it holds you down.  Finish whatever it is that needs to be finished.

Sometimes we don't finish things because we think by ignoring them they will magically change.  I have tried that tact...has not worked yet.  Finish your unfinished business.

Sometimes we don't finish something because it scares us.  So if we avoid it...then we won't have to deal with the scary parts.  That just keeps it on the edge of our consciousness ready to pull us back to fear everything we think about it.  Finish the unfurnished business.

Sometimes it's too painful to let someone go.  So we hold on to the memory of what was or what we want it to be thinking it will magically become that.  That gets us nowhere.  Trust me as a hanger on for 10 years.  It does not change.  Finish your unfinished business.

Take some time to look around your life and finish your unfinished business.  We are on a march to the end of the year.  Commit yourself to finishing your unfinished business by the end of 2009. 

Do for you.  Do it because you are treating yourself like someone you love.  Do it because you want to be ready to embrace all the joy you can and then only way to do that is...you know now...finish your unfinished business.

Go for the joy...

If you treated yourself like someone you loved...I believe you would go for the joy! Because I believe joy is where it is at.

My wish for you and my ongoing wish for me is that we have joy our lives.  It is one of the benefits in getting back up after you fall.  The joy coming back to your life.  Or finding it now if it has eluded you in the past...

You get to define what joy is to you.  What brings you joy.  I think if you love yourself...really love yourself... your joy will be as important to you as you believe it is for everyone around you.

You deserve it. And if you believe you don't deserve joy in your life... I am here to tell you that you deserve all the joy you can handle and more!  You deserve it because of who you are. You are you and that is pretty grand!  It is that simple.

Have you forgotten what joy looks like?  What it can feel like.  I recommend you rent two movies right now to see joy at it's zenith.  Get the movie August Rush and watch the last scene as August conducts the orchestra.  Then rent Tyler Perry's movie Why Did I Get Married. Watch the scene at the end of the movie where Shelia talks about joy.  Both scenes will show you what it looks like...I bet you can feel it too with very little effort.

Go for the joy my friend.  Go for the joy. 

This is my 200TH blog entry...I am committed to helping us all walk to the life we say we want.  I hope your's includes a healthy dose of joy :)

What would you do...

if you treated yourself like someone you loved?

It will be my question for the week. What would you do?

Yesterday I rested because it is what I needed to do. What did you do yesterday?  Take any time for yourself?  If you did...great.  If you didn't...why not? Just a question to ponder.

Here is something you would do if you treated yourself like someone you loved...you would give yourself a break.  We tend to be kinder about others when they misstep.  When it's us...usually we go over and over it until we drive ourselves crazy with what we should have done.  It seems like that is how many of us are wired.  I say...as an electrician's daughter...it's time to rewire ourselves so we are as kind to ourselves as we are to everyone else.

So if something is driving you crazy...something you think you could have handle better...let it go.  Put it down.  There is not one of us...not one I would venture to bet who would not do something different if we had a chance when it comes to things that have gone wrong.  But we don't get a do over.  We get a new set of experiences to use as we move forward.  That's it.

So today...if something is bothering you...the debt you have, the person who left you...the job that disappeared.  Know you did what you could with what you had at the time.  That was then and this is now.  Now is the time to give yourself a break.  You deserve it...

Here's an example of what you do ....

Yesterday I asked what would you do if you treated yourself like someone you loved?

Here's one answer...you would rest when you need it.  Today I need it ... so resting I am.

More tomorrow.  By the way...I hope you are treating yourself like someone you love today...it feels quite wonderful.

The most important question you will answer this year.

How would your life be different if you treated yourself like someone you loved?

That is the question I want you to ponder..I'll be back tomorrow to show where we go from here.

 

Now to question #1.

I asked you to think about two questions a few days ago.  Question #2 was rather interesting didn't you think?

Now to question #1...If not you than who?

Have you given it any thought?  If not you...than who?

Who deserves to get their heart's desire?  Who should have all their goals reached?  Who should meet the love of their life?  Who deserves to have the career they envision?

Who should you invest all your energy and resources in so they can have the life they want? Who...

What name did you come up with?

To be clear...I am all for everyone getting what they want.  Everyone.  But for our purposes we are going to be talking about you and me.  So our answer to question #1 is isn't not about anyone else this time.  It's about us.

Tomorrow I will tell you how we overcome the answers to question #2.  There is a way...and the answer is easier than you think.

A few more answers to question #2...

I have been giving question #2 a lot of thought.

I came up with a few more answers to why not you?

You wear glasses.  You have different shaped eyes.  Your name is hard to pronounce. You are a felon.

You have been told that you are too much. You have been told you are too little. You are too shy.  You are to outgoing.

You are simply too you.

Come back tomorrow for the answer to question #1.

Let me answer the second question first...

I asked you to answer two questions yesterday.  Let me answer the 2ND one first.

Why not you?

Well you are not worthy.  You are too tall.  You are too short.  You are to light. You are too thin.  You are too fat. You are too dark. You are too brown. You look different from everyone else. Your family does not understand you. Your family is not from here...where ever here is.

You are alone.  You are with someone who does not support you. 

You have left someone.  You have been left.

You are not smart enough.  You come from the wrong side of the tracks.  You come from a place that has no tracks. You have debt.  You have no credit.  You are a woman.  You are a man.

Your parents don't have money.  You don't have money.  You went to the wrong school.  You didn't go to school.

You are too confused.  You are too clear.  You have no contacts.  You have made many mistakes. 

You have no plan.  You don't know how to plan.  Your plans have not worked out before.

You are too tired.  You are too old.  You are too young.

You have failed before. You have succeeded before. You have fallen seven times before.

Got any more?

Tomorrow...I will answer the first question.

Here is my question for you...

If not you than who? And why not you?  Okay that's two questions...

See you tomorrow...and be ready with your answer.

In your own time...

One thing you need to embrace as you move forward is that you get to do it at your own pace...in your own time. You need to hold on to that concept with both hands!

There is a lot of information available on just about any topic these days. The internet is a gift of resources but it can also give you information overload.  So you, my friend, need to take things at your own speed.  Get what you need and then act on what is useful in your own time.

Acting on someone else's timetable simply will not work long term.  The motivation, the push has to be from you.  And when in your stomach you feel it's right...you act.

A perfect example of that was in Tyler Perry's movie Madea's Family Reunion.  One sister was being abused and while her sister wanted her to act and leave the situation...the sister who was being abused acted when it was right for her.  It was her timeline.  Not her sister's.  It was in her own time.

Is there a danger you may not act?  Yes, there is that danger...but  no action is action by default if you think about it. And if no action feels right to you..then it is right for you. That is a choice you get to make.  I have come to really understand that life is about movement and standing still.  You get to decide when you move and when you stand still...in your own time.