First...how did Step # 1 go? Did you do it? Did you write out your perfect day in glorious detail? Great!
I did...but not until last night. My perfect day before included my dog Frank who died. I had a very hard time rewriting my perfect day without him. But I did it. I wrote and the more I wrote the more focused I became about the new year.
If you did not do it yet...don't be looking down at your keyboard trying to avoid me!!! LOL
But if you didn't do it yet...take the time. It doesn't take as long as you might think. You can just do an outline of it and fill in more details as you go along the next few days. But you need to do this for yourself.
Your perfect day is a road map, a guide to where you want to go. You truly need it or you could end up somewhere else!
Okay today Step #2...it's all about you!
You have to get yourself into a mindset that you deserve to have the life you dream of. You deserve your perfect day every day! Not as easy as it sounds. It's not easy for several reasons. Briefly here are some of those reasons:
- you don't think you are deserving. Maybe along the way in your life you have been told or have somehow gotten the message that you or what you think doesn't count. If that's the case it's hard to see yourself having a perfect day..let alone a perfect life.
- you believe everyone else's needs come first and if there is anything left or you have any energy left...you can focus on you. From experience let me say..FAT CHANCE YOU GET TO YOU!
- you have been told to "want" is bad. It's selfish. And lord knows we don't want to be called out about that!
- you are use to having less...and switching to "more" is hard! Lord it's hard. Change. Any change can rock you to your soul. I have written lately about how difficult the changes I am making have been. It has been physically painful to address some issues that have come up. But here is what I know...if you want it...you can get to the other side. And You can. I am not some pollyanna who is spouting things I have not lived. I am knee deep in change and it can suck! But you can do it. You can get to the other side of it. But you have to want it for yourself because even though there is help to support you in changing whatever you want to change..you have to do the work yourself. Let's all say it together...bummer! LOL!
Here are a few things to help you get into the right mindset.
Make a list of all the things you have done for others this year. Get out pencil and paper and write it out. Now make a list of what you have done for you. Compare the list. Isn't it your turn for more attention?
Read this next sentence and see how it feels.
Respect begins with how you treat yourself and your dreams.
I believe that we are given the power and the right to dream. That doesn't mean you have to disrespect where you are. You can be grateful for everything you have in your life and still what to have a larger life. You can want more joy, more love, more adventure..more impact. More "things" if that's what brings you happiness. We are all given the power to dream and the right to make those dreams happen. If you don't respect that right for yourself how can you support that right for anyone else? And as importantly...if you don't respect your own dreams...why should anyone else?
I want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes. The first time I heard it ...it simply stopped me in my tracks. Read it...see what it does for you :)
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles," 1992 (commonly misattributed to Nelson Mandela, 1994 inauguration speech)
I love it! Every time I read that quote I feel it calling to all of us to be less afraid and more of who we truly are meant to be. And we will get there.
Tomorrow..one more step for the best year ever! See you then.
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