Just one more thought about anger...for now that is :).
If you are angry with yourself...
STOP!
In your tracks ...STOP! Truly. Understand it, feel it and then let it go. Anger can keep you stuck. It can keep you in the same place for years. If that is you right now...still angry about something that you did or angry about something that was done to you....you need to STOP and deal with the anger.
The damage it's doing to you and your very outlook on life can be unlimited. Here is a fact...if you cannot get through the anger on your own you may need to ask for help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. These days I am mastering it :) but help you must get (in my opinion) if you cannot work through the anger on your own.
Maybe you made a mistake. A BIG mistake. Well continuing to beat yourself up over it and being angry with yourself does not make it NOT have happened and being angry does NOT mean it won't happen again.
Look at what you did. Understand it if you can. Feel what you need to feel about it. Fix what you can. And then make a commitment to yourself not do that again. Move on. Not exactly rocket science but it works.
If something was done TO you...same process. Look at what happened. Understand it if you can. Feel what you need to feel. Then move on when you can.
If you get stuck..ask for help. Contact a counselor. No money..still contact a counseling agency and see if they have a sliding fee scale.
Years ago I was full up with darkness when I was directing a domestic violence and sexual assault agency. I went to see a counselor. Come to find out I was angry about a lot of the stuff that was happening all around me and my ability to impact it. I was angry...who knew?! I needed help sorting it out. I got it.
Angry and joy cannot exist in the same place. Imagine joy is waiting for the chance to move in your life. Joy is at the door. It's up to you to make room...
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