Fall Down Seven Times Get Up Eight

Ever been in a love coma?

I was listening to a song on the radio...don't know what the name of the song is but one line has stuck with me the past few days...being in a love coma.   

Have you ever been in one?  A love coma where all you hear and see is that person... It's like everything else doesn't exist. 

There is magic to that and a feeling of safety and warmth.  But...and of course there is a but...being that focused is grand if it is for your highest good.  If being in that state of coma doesn't let you see what also may be there then it is not so grand.

If you refuse to see red flags or brush away your doubts because they don't fit this imagine of what you want to see...that is not good.

Here is what I think.  It is better to be wide awake and see what there is to see. The good and the maybe not so good. Each of us has those parts to us.  And when we start from that premise...then each of us gets to be who we really are and there is no need for a coma state. 

There gets to be real feelings in the dark and the light of day. And it's there that real magic happens. Eyes wide open and aware.

Really look at what is in front of you.

Today make it a point to really look at what or who is in front of you.  Pretend you are experiencing them for the first time.  What do you notice?  What can you learn?

There is a man who comes in about once a week whereI work.  Kind of an odd duck...I know...look who can identify odd!!! LOL.

Let's say he is unquie.  Yesterday I decided to chat with him.  I asked a few simple questions and we had a insightful conversation.  I learned a lot about him.  It was good.  I would have never experienced that if I had not taken the time to really look.

Today...try it.  See what you learn.

The higher you go...

the more perspective you can have on your challenge!  That's what I am thinking.

When you are face to face with something it can feel overwhelming.  It's like a giant boulder in your path.

But if you can get above it...look down on it you get a better view of the "lay of the land". You can see ways around that boulder that you can't see when you are face to face.

How do you get higher?  Stay calm, breathe deep and take a few steps back and visualize you are looking down at your challenge. 

What do you see? For more thing you see everything has an end...your challenge doesn't go on forever. 

That alone starts to give you a different perspective...giving you the start of the traction you need to solve it. And that's where solutions are born. :)

Get in or get out. Life is simply too short.

Here's my challenge for you and continuing to be one for me...Get in or Get out.

Get in or Get out...whether it be your relationship, your job or your social commitments.  Life is simply too short for half ass attempts.

If you complain about your partner...do something about it or resolve to find peace where you are.

If you have a job...show up and do your best each and every day.  Can't do that...get a new job.

If you are committed to social things that you don't enjoy or just feel obligated to do because you have always done them and you get nothing out of them.  Quit.

Life is simply too short to spend your precious life complaining and making yourself miserable and every one around you miserable.

Is it easy to do?  Heck no.  Is it worth it to the quality of your life? Oh yeah.

What makes your heart soar?

The news is filled with people who have died in the past week or two.  Whitney Houston, Don Cornelius, Gary Carter and this morning Times reporter Anthony Shadid.  All people who had a level of celebrity in their worlds. And all people who loved what they did.

That's the important part for me.  Not who they are...or how they died.  Rather that they all appeared to love what they were doing. A lesson we all need to live by.

If you absolutely hate what you are doing...why are you doing it?  If your heart calls you to do something else...what are you waiting for? 

No one knows how long they have in this life.  You may be postponing what calls to your heart for a better time.  But what happens if that time never comes?  You will have lost your chance to let your passion out and your heart soar. 

And that my dear friend is a loss for all of us.

Don't wait for spring. Start clearing out now!

If our life is like a house...here's a major step we all need to take. 

We need to start Spring Cleaning it now!  No need to wait...

That's right...we need to start in one room and work our way through the whole "house".  One room at a time. Toss, throw, recycle, re-purpose.

We have no room for new if the old is taking up so much room.

What do we throw out?  Anything that is not serving our highest good.  That means looking at things maybe from a different perspective.  The perspective of what serves me now...not what served me "then".

Things change. Relationships change.  Heck of bodies change...at least minehas.  Are you still holding onto things from "then"?

Time to seriously ask yourself the question.

Then start cleaning...

Let's look at our lives as a house.

Let's say we look at our lives as a house...I love symbolism.  Simply love it!

So here we go... :)

There are many rooms to our lives...many.

Unfortunately sometimes we get so focus on one room that we forget to experience and embrace the others.  It takes a conscious effort to look at life as a whole structure.  To see what is there.  The possibilities.  The potential.

Sometimes we get stuck facing a corner in one room and cannot get turned around.  We simply forget there is another direction to face.

Over the next couple days I want to explore our house.

What rooms we have and why we may be stuck in a corner... I, myself, spent some time in the corner as a child.  I know...you are SHOCKED!  Alas it's true. :) After awhile my mom would say I could leave the chair.

I say it's time we all got up and left the chair...time to explore.  Starting tomorrow.

 

And your assignment for today is...

only use positive words to describe your life.  There you have it.  For the rest of the day...only use positive words.

Even if your life sucks...truly sucks.  Don't talk about it like that today.  Find words that are positive for what your life will be likeafter the suckyiness is over. (Trust me it will get better)

Why use positive words?  Quite simply you get what you speak about...your words are like magnets.  Make sure you are attracting the good stuff today.

Now go forth and speak...  :)

 

Want to bet on something? Bet on you.

Yesterday was the Superbowl.  I watched a pregame show where they talked about all the betting that was going on.  This morning on the radio they talked about strange bets that were made and paid off BIG for people.

Here is a thought...what if all those folks...including us bet on us?  We put all our resources on the line to get the outcome we want.  That's a bet I think I use to make.  Then energy, drama, fear and clutter (both emotional and physical)  got involved and the smart money was not on me to do anything but survive it all.

That was then and this is now. Time to bet on me again and to go all in as they say in poker.  Put it all on the line once again.  It's not a gamble in my mind...it's a sure thing. :)  What about you? Are you in?

 

Let's not be too smug ....

That's what I was thinking this morning when my dad and I were talking about something that has happened to a family in our town....actually three families.

Three families I am aware of have had a family member arrested (or appears will be arrested) in the last few months.  The wave of those events do not only catch the person arrested...the undercurrent...the shock wave brings along everyone close to them.  It is not a pretty ride.

People get pretty damn smug when they hear bad news about someone else.  You know the look..they roll their eyes and say mmmhmm.  As if the very thought of them doing something stupid or dumb or even illegal is so far from possible that they smugly add their two cents to the conversation about what they would or would not have done.

This morning I thought about that.  People who smugly think it will never be them.  The truth is it may not...but then again it may.  Human beings do dumb things for all sort of reasons.  They hurt themselves and the people around them.

Before you join the chorus of the smug...join the chorus instead of the understanding. The ones who say I am sorry this has happened to your family.  Then be quiet and offer support that comes for your sense understanding bad things can happen that are out of someone's control.

Think of it an a karma deposit that you yourself may have to draw on someday.